Divorce can conjure feelings of anger and frustration. Sadness and resentment. How can true happiness occur with such emotion at the forefront?
The key to moving on is finding out how to let go. And finding the ability to forgive each other. For many this is easier said than done.
Luckily there are ways in finding inner peace. Outlets such as self-help books. Dating services. Counseling. Special events for single and divorced individuals.
In September 2012 a Divorce Single and Mingle Party aka Divorce Party was held in Toronto. The event was organized so that like-minded individuals could have the opportunity to meet new people. The event offered a live DJ, wine tasting and a fashion show. The keynote speakers specialized in the area of divorce.
One of the keynote speakers was Deborah Moskovitch. Pictured left with W&H writer Nicole Gioseffi. Moskovitch is a divorce coach and the author of The Smart Divorce. She herself has been divorced for over 16 years.
She explained that her divorce was a difficult time in her life. Finding ways to overcome it was a challenge. She said the most important thing is to heal at your own speed. And learn to forgive and let go.
Through the process of her divorce Moskovitch channeled her emotions into writing her book. It is equipped with proven strategies and valuable advice.
A vital divorce tip she gives is to know your partner well enough before the marriage. Asking questions will help you gain a clearer picture as to what your future will look like together.
Divorce tips to know before your first wedding or if you are getting married again.
• What are your career goals and aspirations?
• How do you plan on retiring?
• Where do you want to live?
• How many children do you want to have?
• If there are children from a previous marriage. Make sure a partner is okay with this.
Don’t be afraid to ask your partner these questions. Especially if you want another shot at finding true love. Answers to these questions ensure you both see the same foreseeable future.
In addition there is also the subject of finances. Moskovitch strongly suggests to protect your assets. A prenuptial agreement signed before you are married will ensure you both keep what is rightfully yours.
Finding true happiness after divorce can be attainable if you forget the past. Do not be afraid to ask the right questions. In doing so your marriage can prove to be a healthy and long lasting one.
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